Love, Peace, & Psychology

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It’s hard to say exactly what the rules are for dating someone older or younger than you, because every relationship is different. However, there are some things that you should take into consideration if you’re thinking of dating someone in a different age group:

·        Are they in the same stage of life? A few years of age difference really shouldn’t matter much if you’re in the same stage in your lives. If you’re both students for example but one of you is an undergrad and one is a PhD student, then you’re both in the same phase in your life and share the similarities of that stage, regardless of their being an age difference. Problems tend to arise when you’re in two totally different stages, like if one of you is young and partying all the time and the other is working, divorced and already has children.

·        Are you missing out on your own age group? Are you missing out on experiences, activities and doing things because you’re with someone a lot older or younger? If being in a relationship with this person means that you aren’t doing the things that someone your age would normally be doing, you might want to reconsider. You don’t want to look back at your life and feel that you missed out.

·        Are you trying to escape something? Maybe you’re dating someone younger because you’re trying to escape the responsibility that comes with getting older. Or you’re trying to grow up too fast so you’re dating someone a lot older. Look at why you want to be in a relationship with this person and make sure it’s for the right reasons.

·        Why do they want to be with you? Make sure that they are also in the relationship for the right reasons, and not because they’re trying to feel younger or trying to escape something themselves.

·        Can you be yourself? Even if they’re older you should be able to be yourself and admit to loving Justin Bieber. Or you shouldn’t try to act young and hip just to impress someone younger than you. If you have to put on an act to try to fit into their age demographic, it’s probably not going to work out.

·        Do you treat the relationship the same as you normally would?Are you acting the way you would if you were dating someone your own age? Make sure you’re not pressuring them or rushing into something you’re not ready for simply to comply with what you think they want at their age.

·        Are you changing who you are? You don’t need to suddenly grow up faster because you’re dating someone older. Or you don’t need to become carefree and immature to fit into a relationship with someone younger. You are who you are and you shouldn’t have to change that.

·        What will happen in the long term? Is there potential for this relationship to go somewhere in the long run? If you see yourself wanting to get married and settle down in the next few years and they are just getting out of high school, it might be fun for the short term but may not have a lasting future.

·        Can you hang out with their friends? Or can they hang out with yours? If either of you are horrified at how immature or old their friends seem, it probably won’t work. You don’t want to date someone where the relationship only works when you’re alone. Your relationship doesn’t exist in a bubble, you both have lives and friends and if you are only compatible when you’re alone, you’re bound to run into problems.

psych-facts:

1. Naturalist Intelligence (“Nature Smart”)

Designates the human ability to discriminate among living things (plants, animals) as well as sensitivity to other features of the natural world (clouds, rock configurations).  This ability was clearly of value in our evolutionary past as hunters, gatherers, and farmers; it continues to be central in such roles as botanist or chef.  It is also speculated that much of our consumer society exploits the naturalist intelligences, which can be mobilized in the discrimination among cars, sneakers, kinds of makeup, and the like.

2. Musical Intelligence (“Musical Smart”)

Musical intelligence is the capacity to discern pitch, rhythm, timbre, and tone.  This intelligence enables us to recognize, create, reproduce, and reflect on music, as demonstrated by composers, conductors, musicians, vocalist, and sensitive listeners. Interestingly, there is often an affective connection between music and the emotions; and mathematical and musical intelligences may share common thinking processes.  Young adults with this kind of intelligence are usually singing or drumming to themselves.  They are usually quite aware of sounds others may miss.

3. Logical-Mathematical Intelligence (Number/Reasoning Smart)

Logical-mathematical intelligence is the ability to calculate, quantify, consider propositions and hypotheses, and carry out complete mathematical operations.  It enables us to perceive relationships and connections and to use abstract, symbolic thought; sequential reasoning skills; and inductive and deductive thinking patterns.  Logical intelligence is usually well developed in mathematicians, scientists, and detectives.  Young adults with lots of logical intelligence are interested in patterns, categories, and relationships.  They are drawn to arithmetic problems, strategy games and experiments.

4.Existential Intelligence

Sensitivity and capacity to tackle deep questions about human existence, such as the meaning of life, why do we die, and how did we get here.

5. Interpersonal Intelligence (People Smart”)

Interpersonal intelligence is the ability to understand and interact effectively with others.  It involves effective verbal and nonverbal communication, the ability to note distinctions among others, sensitivity to the moods and temperaments of others, and the ability to entertain multiple perspectives.  Teachers, social workers, actors, and politicians all exhibit interpersonal intelligence.  Young adults with this kind of intelligence are leaders among their peers, are good at communicating, and seem to understand others’ feelings and motives.

6. Bodily-Kinesthetic Intelligence (“Body Smart”)

Bodily kinesthetic intelligence is the capacity to manipulate objects and use a variety of physical skills.  This intelligence also involves a sense of timing and the perfection of skills through mind–body union.  Athletes, dancers, surgeons, and craftspeople exhibit well-developed bodily kinesthetic intelligence.

7. Linguistic Intelligence (Word Smart)

Linguistic intelligence is the ability to think in words and to use language to express and appreciate complex meanings.  Linguistic intelligence allows us to understand the order and meaning of words and to apply meta-linguistic skills to reflect on our use of language. Linguistic intelligence is the most widely shared human competence and is evident in poets, novelists, journalists, and effective public speakers.  Young adults with this kind of intelligence enjoy writing, reading, telling stories or doing crossword puzzles.

8. Intra-personal Intelligence (Self Smart”)

Intra-personal intelligence is the capacity to understand oneself and one’s thoughts and feelings, and to use such knowledge in planning and directioning one’s life.  Intra-personal intelligence involves not only an appreciation of the self, but also of the human condition.  It is evident in psychologist, spiritual leaders, and philosophers.  These young adults may be shy. They are very aware of their own feelings and are self-motivated.

9. Spatial Intelligence (“Picture Smart”)

Spatial intelligence is the ability to think in three dimensions.  Core capacities include mental imagery, spatial reasoning, image manipulation, graphic and artistic skills, and an active imagination.  Sailors, pilots, sculptors, painters, and architects all exhibit spatial intelligence. Young adults with this kind of intelligence may be fascinated with mazes or jigsaw puzzles, or spend free time drawing or daydreaming.

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